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Negativity and one's attitude are an interesting subject Rob, and also these sort of feelings or behaviours are typically very easy to see in others but often difficult to really acknowledge in oneself at the time that they are occurring. The trick is to get accustomed to self evaluating your mood, often when I realise I'm being negative about something I stop and think, now come on Naomi, your attitude is half of the problem, change it and suddenly the mountain seems to level out some what. I once read a very interesting sentence in an astrology book of all places and whilst we may question the credibility of astrology this sentence really hit home to me and I pass it on when I see other people struggling with the same issue, and so here it is..
Irritation is something you do to yourself.
And how true these words ring, we allow ourselves to react poorly, angrily or negatively to the triggers we come across every day in life and putting ourselves through these 'lows' of mood doesn't change the situation, certainly doesn't make it better, but just exacerbates the problem and ruin what could have been another happy day on planet me.
An interesting debate

Hi Robert, I couldn't agree with you more, I don't have time for negativity either. I have always believed that remaining positive in difficult situations is one of the true tests of a persons character and is also one of the leadership traits that I think are most important.

I would be interested to hear if anyone knows of any "negative" people that have risen to high positions of power or success? I certainly can't think of any. I think that if you spoke to any highly successful sportsmen or women, they would probably tell you that positivity is one of the most important characteristics. As would businessmen, actors, politicians, doctors, nurses, teachers and so on...

I would be very careful though when saying that being realistic is as bad as being negative. I think being realistic in this sense is the acceptance that you are in a difficult situation, but negativity is the way you react to that acceptance. I think it is entirely possible to be positive whilst being realistic. I may be wrong though, I am definitely not a psychologist!

Yours positively,
Jed

I really can't think of any negative successful people either! I am trying my hardest but struggling.

That's an interesting take you have on realism affecting the understanding and acceptance of a situation whilst the reaction occurs afterwards. I think people can be both realistic and positive at the same time but sometimes being realistic prevents positivity because the outcomes seems far out of reach. Our own judgement of what is realistic and what is not is so often wrong that in many cases the question can be asked: why be realistic at all if we are so often wrong? If you want something badly then just go and get it no matter what.

There must have been many successful people in all walks of life (business, entertainment, sport) who were told growing up or in their early careers that making it to the very top was not realistic. The chances were stacked against them. By being almost blindly positive though they reached their goals.

Ok, levitating or turning water into wine may be a little far fetched but in the vast majority of cases I think only the smallest dose of realism is needed to achieve something. Positivity far outweighs it.

I agree with you, Robert. Nobody ever achieved anything of value by being negative.

Let's all be positive and be successful together.

Thanks, Ash.

Being realsitic is almost as bad as being negative. See this video by Will Smith to find out why > http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OLN2k0b3g70

Being positive is the only option.

Thanks for your comment.

That's a great video. I have seen it before - it's one of my favourites. Will Smith really understand the difference between inspiration and motivation.

I'm not sure I fully agree with your assertion that realism is almost as bad as being negative. Our optimism and positivity should always be in touch with the real world IMHO. Have you read Jeffrey Gitomer's book The Little Gold Book of Yes! Attitude, Robert? It really captures the balance between being positive and reaching for the stars at the same time, I feel.

I was careful to use the word "almost" ;-)

I have not read that book but may have to give it a go. It sounds interesting.

There does need to be the smallest dose of realism...but it can be very, very small. Realism causes fear amongst many people. I’m sure everyone has achieved things which have surprised them and which did not seem realistic before hand. Everyone has had that moment when they said “I never thought we could do that”. I honestly feel that being realistic holds many people back from achieving what they are truely capable of. The people that are called crazy and are told that their ideas are unrealistic often go onto to make the biggest changes of all. There are many people who fail at these attempts too but in a lot of cases being realistic can be the same as standing still – change does not occur.

There is no simple formula to this but if I wanted someone to get something done that even I doubted was possible, I would hope the person doing it would have masses of positivity rather than my dose of realism. There is a chance it may happen then.

I will try and get hold of that book though!